Funny how we feel the need to do statistics and draw charts to figure out what makes a good marriage, when all that's really needed is a little common sense.
1. Communicate your feelings instead of bottling them up.
2. Be selfless and stop focusing so much on getting your wants and desires, and trust that your needs will be met.
3. Be realistic, expect that you won't always get your way, things will go wrong sometimes, and you just have to do your best.
4. If you make a vow that your marriage is going to be forever, try sticking to that instead of thinking divorce is even an option.
5. Stop focusing so much on pleasure. Even Plato got this one right. Life isn't about maximizing your pleasure and minimizing pain, it's about doing what's right. Obsessing over getting pleasure KILLS marriages. It's what gave men the stereotype of being sex-driven and what gave women the stereotype of lying there in bed just waiting for it to be over.
6. Stop believing the media. They completely get marriage and sex wrong, in every sense, in every place. Turn off your TVs and think for yourselves about what it should look like and be. Sex is a wonderful way to celebrate the most intimate union of your marriage, but it's not this amazing thing everyone should obsess about getting all the time.
1. Communicate your feelings instead of bottling them up.
2. Be selfless and stop focusing so much on getting your wants and desires, and trust that your needs will be met.
3. Be realistic, expect that you won't always get your way, things will go wrong sometimes, and you just have to do your best.
4. If you make a vow that your marriage is going to be forever, try sticking to that instead of thinking divorce is even an option.
5. Stop focusing so much on pleasure. Even Plato got this one right. Life isn't about maximizing your pleasure and minimizing pain, it's about doing what's right. Obsessing over getting pleasure KILLS marriages. It's what gave men the stereotype of being sex-driven and what gave women the stereotype of lying there in bed just waiting for it to be over.
6. Stop believing the media. They completely get marriage and sex wrong, in every sense, in every place. Turn off your TVs and think for yourselves about what it should look like and be. Sex is a wonderful way to celebrate the most intimate union of your marriage, but it's not this amazing thing everyone should obsess about getting all the time.